So, apparently, as the token "lesbian" in the office, even though I identify as queer, I can't tell someone they look nice without being told it's getting close to sexual harassment. "Yeah, keep complimenting us," she says. In the next sentence, I joke about sexual harassment and they say, "Yep, it's getting close!" Was it a joke, maybe. Did it make me uncomfortable, definitely.
At what point did it become impossible for me to compliment a woman without it looking like I am hitting on her? When did I lose the ability to tell a woman she looks nice today? Hell, I would be happy if someone said that to me. So, why can't I say it to someone else? I intend to make her day, not harass her in any way.
Ok, so I do not believe it is harassment, not on my part anyway. Apparently I need to stop telling women they look nice. But I do ask, why does every woman simply assume I am hitting on them? Yes, I work with a great group of good looking people, myself included :), but why do you think I am hitting on you? You are straight and married and have children. I am not interested at all in a woman like that. I was just trying to tell someone they look nice today. I guess I won't say the same tomorrow.
That's total bullshit.
ReplyDeletePeople and their freakin insecurities.
You don't have to stop telling me when I finally wear something that matches that it looks good. And I don't have to stop telling you when you look good. AND I'm sure as hell not gonna quit telling you how awesome you are and how much I love you. Because OHMYGODSHESGAYAND *MIGHT* take it the wrong way. Total crap. grrrr.